Ok as you know i’m only 13 yea huh i know what were you thinking having sex at 13 yea ok cool i get the harsh remarks i do!!! But this question is not about mt itz about my child!!!! Ok my boifriend iz 18 and i’m scared to tell my mom and dad they are going to blame my big sister for all of this cause she had her baby a month ago and i wanna be honest towards them but if i tell them who the dad is i sue they are going to try to lock him up!! And i’m scared of telling him cause noone knew we were going out!!! i scared to tell him cause i’m scared that he might not do right at all!!!!! Wat should i do!!!! oh yea don’t say nothing about abortions cause i don’t believe in abortions!!!!!
By the way i never told him how old i was i told him i was 16 thats why i am soo scared!!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
As soon as you can, check out your nearest Pregnancy Resource Center. The counselors at our local center, is able to help, like big time! They have plenty of referral, counseling help to get you through all your big questions.
Your 18 year old boyfriend may be in much trouble whether you want him to be or not… You are 13 & legally, you have been raped.
Your child will be just fine, once you reach out for help. After you get over your panicky feelings, you’ll understand all your options with really caring women at a Pregnancy Resource Center. Another name for it may be "Crisis Pregnancy Center", or "Care Net". Good luck!!!!!!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
i don’t believe in abortions too.i don’t think anyone wants an abortion ,not even those who pass it.the thing is sometimes you don’t have much of a choice.you’re only 13 and your child will have a preteen mother.you don’t have the slightest idea of what motherhood means.
anyway i think too you should go talk to your parents and I’m sorry to agree that the guy that you were going out with is by law a child abuser.
go talk with your parents ,solving this through Internet is not good either.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
DONT YOU DARE HAVE AN ABORTION!!!!
You got yourself into this mess, and you cannot take that out on an innocent baby by taking its life!!!
No offense, but i somehow believe that your parents may find out that your pregnant once you go into labor.
I hope maybe you think next time before having SEX with a guy 5 years older than you while your in 7th grade!
HAVE FUN changing, feeding, gettign up in the middle of the night, and now you BETTER marry that DADDY or that poor kid is going grow up with a messed up family. (HOW CAN IT GET WORSE???) can you imagine having your mom 13 years older than you???
JERK!!!
EVER HEARD OF CONDOMS?!?!?!?!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Honesty is always the best policy. If your not they will find out sooner or later and then they will be hopping mad. HE knew your were not 16, he used you and don’t let him fool you. At 18 a young mans hormones are just starting to calm down and his were still in the flaming range and he took advantage of you and his punishment will be I hope prison. He knew what he was doing at 13 you were not totally aware of what was going on. I assure you while your not totally innocent of this he has more guilt then you. Best of luck.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
I’ve never been pregnant but I do know You made a mistake. You lied and he can go to jail for that. You can’t hide your pregnancy. He shouldn’t be punished if he didn’t know. If I was in your situation I would tell the guy first that you are pregnant and tell him your real age. Tell him not to tell ANYONE about it. When you tell your parents you are pregnant, tell them that you snuck out and got a stranger to buy you alcohol and got drunk and had a one night stand and don’t know who the guy is or what his name is. OR something along that line. But make sure that you know the fathers real name so after you turn 18 you can put his name on the birth certificate. Tell him in order for him to stay out of jail, he has to pay you child support and put in into a bank account your parents don;t know about that way they don;t know you know who the father is. If he doesnt pay you every month, tell him that you will tell on him. Its not nice, its not right, but it will help you out. If you need more info or someone to talk to email me at xxmilitarychikxx@yahoo.com
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
sorry that you are in a jam…
the fact that the father of your baby is 18…if anyone finds out, he will be arrested and most like convicted as a sexual predator for having intercourse with a 13 year old…it doesn’t make any difference that you told him you were 16, THAT is still against the law…
contact planned parenthood, the health department, or your pediatrician so that you can start taking care of your baby to be and get on the proper viatmins and supplements (folic acid and prenatal vitamins)
good luck
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
As a mom, I would rather know – you can’t get help with this if they don’t know. Your boyfriend is another thing. I would tell him and if he wanted to split then tell your parents and let them take action against him. If he wants to stay around and be there for the both of you, you have some grown up decisions to make. I hope everything works out for the best for everyone. Parents can’t help if they don’t know.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Well you won’t be able to hide a pregnancy, and you will need your family. SO you should talk to your mom and express to her that you were a willing participant in intercourse, and if this is true that your boyfriend didn’t pressure or coerce you into intercourse that you don’t want charges brought up on him. Then you need to really consider what is best for this baby. You are only 13 years old and have no idea what you are in store for. I was 17 when I got pregnant and it was so hard, I can’t even imagine what 13 would be like. You could always do an open adoption where you would pick the parents and get pictures and updates of the child for at least a year. You can write a letter for him/her and put it in the adoption file. But you should really think not about what you want but what is right for this baby, you will have a hard time being the parent that a child deserves to have. Just talk to your mom and really weigh your options minus abortion. Good Luck.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
omg! someone is some DEEP "poopy" and it’s NOT the poor kid..you are carrying!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Well I am a mother, so I definately have a different perspective on things, you need to shoot straight with your parents, this will show that you are mature, as far as him being 18 shame on him. Pregnancy crisis centers in your area maybe helpful to you and your family. Adoption may be something to consider as you will be a kid having a kid. Get into the doctor soon, this will be a high risk pregrancy for you and your future child. It is officially time to grow up, you have some hefty decisions in the next nine months.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
You’d better tell your parents they have another grandchild on the way. And your boyfriend can go to jail for statutory rape.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
wow, ur dumb, but thats not the whole point. my point is that u shouldnt have told him that ur 16, and the thing is in this case, when u had sex with him is called statutory rape, even IF it u willingly did it. but the trouble is that IF ur parents want ur bf to go to jail, then thats when he goes to jail. u should tell ur bf ur actually 13, b4 he finds out and goes through alot of emotions etc. i guess ur between a rock and a hard place. hehe i just wish u some good luck in life, ull need it
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Well, isn’t that special. Another illegitimate child born at the expense of the taxpayers. I’ll bet you’re already signed up on public aid and the wic program. Keep your legs closed and get a job. I’m tired of paying for society’s mistakes.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
tell him and your parents you can use their help
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
I am sorry that happend to you but the only thing you can do is tell your parents. I am 15 and am 3 months pregnant with second child and my parents are wanting me to move in with my boyfriend…. but you never should have lied and said you were 16 because lying gets you in big troble!!!!
If you want someone to talk to just email me at bowerskassie@yahoo.com I am very understanding about these things and I am here if you need me.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
wow girl im ashamed of you but i will still help you. you made a big mistake sleeping with that guy who was 5 years older than you. and the sad thing is you are only 13 and now you will miss all the great things about being a kid…because of your lusts. but anyway i digress, the best thing for you to do is tell your parents what you did. tell the guy you slept with the truth and to try to make an adoption plan for the baby. it will be hard but what other option do you have. if you approach this in a mature way im sure things will go accoding to plan.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
okay tell your parents that you’re pregnant, you need to tell them the truth. When your parents ask whos the dad which they will tell them that his name and how old he is. When your parents start screaming like crazy tell them that you lied to him and told him you were older cuz u did. Next, tell your bf that you’re only 13 years old he’ll definitely be mad at you and go balastic even cuz he can go to jail for having sex with a minor. After that, make your bf if he is going to support you with the child but if he leaves the state scared sorry you’re by yourself. If he does stay make him meet with your parents so you can guys can talk. Well in the beginning it won’t be talking your parents will be screaming at that boy maybe, i’m just trying to tell you things that can happen here. Anyways after a while your parents will realize that he is the father of your baby and they have to understand that you love him and he is the father of the baby, hopefully they won’t press charges. You and the father have to decide what you’re going to do with the baby. If he really loves he’ll marry you or at least support you and the baby. Good luck!!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Wow he’ll be in for a shock when he finds out he slept with a 13 year old and that you lied to him about your age. Girl just tell your parents. He shouldn’t be sleeping with a 13 year old anyway. If you were my daughter I’d make you raise that kid and make sure you gave birth without meds and lock that loser up.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
even though he thought you were 16 it’s still illegal as you are under the age of 18. you need to tell your parents. they will be mad/upset/sad but that is because they want whats best for you and they love you. Obviously they helped your sister and supported her so i’m sure that they will do the same for you. best of luck and take care.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Come Clean, If you are afraid something Really bad is going to happen
have someone with you when you tell them.
Honesty is the best policy no matter what. someone is going to find out soon enough.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
dont worry just be honest with your parents, trust me my best friend got pregnant at 14 and she didnt want to tell her parents so she decided to have an abortion, yet she had to tell her mom about it because she was starting to get stomach pains, but im against abortion, and yea that guy did rape you since your 13. do the right thing girl, tell your parents, well at least your mom, it wont be quiet embarrasing if you tell your mom than yor dad.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Well, you’ve got a fine kettle of fish, don’t you?
Yeah, 13 and having sex and now pregnant. Lying to a guy about how old you were. By the way, if that much is true, then he didn’t intentionally behave in the manner of a pedophile. He may not even get into too much trouble.
You’ve already done enough harm by lying. And your parents are going to figure out something is up pretty soon. Most females (can’t call you a woman, you aren’t old enough) start showing around the fourth month of pregnancy. Your parents shouldn’t blame your sister, it isn’t like she told you to go out and have sex.
Truthfully, I think you need to tell the father your true age, and after you’ve hit him with that news, follow it up by telling him you’re pregnant. You both need to figure out what your next plan of action is going to be. I think you are WAY too young to be raising a child (your body is too young to be HAVING a child…)- you might want to look into placing the baby up for adoption. Staying in school is really important at your age.
After you and proud papa have talked, go to your parents and tell them. No more lies. Be upfront, and take the blame for his being 18 and not knowing you were only 13.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
why would they blame your sister for you getting pregnant? thats all pn you . you need to tell you mom and dad it the rite thing to do .
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
You absolutely have to tell your parents. You also have to tell them the truth that you pretended to be older, not that it’s going to make a difference legally. Your parents can sit with you and the boy and talk this through. Pregnancy is not something that you can hide, because you cannot keep a growing stomach hidden forever and don’t do anything foolish. Tell the truth and face the music. You’re a big girl now,sweetie.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
well,I’ll make a suggestion.. you can try it..and maybe this will help. First go to your Guidance counselor at school. let them know what you just typed here for your question. They can set up a meeting with mom and dad as well as get the father of this child there as well. Its easy to have someone else there who will not be motivated by anger or fear or sadness to be there to mediate a rational voice in all of the chaos that will occur.Second, since you plan on keeping the baby..and I commend u on that, start prenatal care as soon as all is discussed. Hopefully your mom and dad will understand that your babies dad will be more of a help outside of jail than in. and as for him not wanting to "do right" well,no matter the age, he had sex with you, he knew what he was doin and you did as well, he made his bed, and he needs to lay in it..no pun intended. bE BLESSED
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Either way, he’s 18, and that’s considered Stat. Rape.
Say hello to a jailbait dude.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
You are in a pickle dear ! It’s better to tell parents now than later. They will find out !!!!! Don’t let them blame your sis either. It’s not her fault you got prego ! You gotta tell the guy your pregnant. He’s gotta a decision to make as to whether or not he’s gonna be a part of your life and the life of this child you are carrying. He might bail; He may stick around… Depends on how much character he has !! I don’t know how your parents will react to the news. I don’t know what will happen to him (baby’s daddy), but all this WILL come out in the OPEN… might as well be now ! Be sure to take care of yourself and the baby !!
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
just tell your parents the thruth they always know what to do don’t worry every thing is going to be ok
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
First off you really should tell your boyfriend (especially if that’s what your considering him) he has every right to know and he will need to own up to his share of the responsibility.
As far as your parent you may as well tell them NOW because they are gonna know pretty soon when your belly starts showing and growing. Yea they may be upset but at least you won’t have to worry and deal with stressing over not telling them.
And your parents may consider pressing charges against your boyfriend due to his age and your but that is something you really need to discuss with your parents in not doing.
You now have to leave and deal with the consequences of your actions. I wish you the best of luck. Congrats
P.S. Make sure you try to finish school. It will be tough raising a child and doing so but hopefully you will have your families support especially if your are gonna take care of your baby.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
You should just come clean & tell your parents now… They will eventually find out in a few months when you start showing. Did your parents every mention birth control to you?? After you have this baby, you better get on something so this does not happen again… you should be worried about school, going out with friends, getting good grades, etc..not about have a baby. & yes, your parents should have him locked up if he is 18 & you are only 13!!!!!! That is a crime & he should be punished. If he does not do what is right, then you will have to go to court.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
no one knew you were going out because hes a pedophile and deserves to be locked up. If you do not believe in abortion then your only option is of course to tell them whether you are scared or not.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
You’re going to have to tell your parents. I know you don’t want to and you’re scared, but you can’t hide it. They will initially be upset (mainly due to shock), but they will help you through this. Whatever they decide to do to your boyfriend – make sure you are doing the best for the baby.
Right now you have 2 choice for this child: Keep it or give it up for adoption. To make the right choice, answer the following questions:
Do I make enough to buy food and diapers for him?
Do I make enough to buy clothes for him?
Can I get medical insurance for him?
Do I have a safe home for him?
Will my parents help me raise him?
Am I really mature enough to raise a baby on my own?
Do I want to finish school?
I know these may sound harsh, but I know how hard it is to raise a child. I’m not a pre-teen, but I have a 13 year old daughter and I also have a 6 month son. I am in a solid marriage, but it is still a struggle to make sure all the bills are paid, the kids are fed well and clothed well, etc.
More than likely your boyfriend will bolt b/c like you said – technically it is statuatory rape – doesn’t matter that you consented. He will only focus on saving his own butt.
You are in a difficult position right now. You really need to sit down with your parents and talk to them. If you are not ready, talk to your counselor at school. Good luck. Keep the little one as the number one priority in your decision.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
The best way to avoid getting in trouble is to say: "dad i hate your f****** guts you slimy bas**** I am pregnant and disobeyed every friggin rule you set down and i hope you hate every everloving bone in my no good non tolerable motherf****** body I also want to say that I did IT with my boyfriend at least 20 times to get the baby and I want an abortion immediately. I want you to pay for every thing!!!!!!!!"
Hope i helped
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
well just tell them its better to get it out in the open
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Just be honest & come clean about everything.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
there really is nothing that you can do to stop it. in some states, if an underage girl ends up pregnant, they want to know who the father is. if he didn’t want to get in trouble, he should have dated someone his own age. i have absolutely no compassion for people who are legal adults that pry on children.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
its best that you be totally and completely honest about this whole thing! I know that you are scared but believe me parents have a way of getting the truth out sooner or later believe me. and i know that you don’t want to hear this, but what business does an 18 year old have messing with a 13 year old girl?! believe me i have been in a similar situation and i know that you may be like feeling the whole "love" thing but believe me it WILL pass once you go through hell and back. just be HONEST!! life gets way harder than this, make it easier on yourself and your child now.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Not my fault, dont have sex if u dont wanna worry about having a baby, its people like u that have babies and make america a more crowded place than it already is, Good luck too you
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
ok well first of all i really respect you for standing up for you and your baby for not giving into the easy way out of abortion.im not sure how close you are with your family but if i were you i would go to which ever parent i was closer with and more understanding which sounds like your mom and explain to her that you were irresponsible and made a mistake but you are ready to take responsibility for your actions.she may be mad at first but hopefully she will respect your decision and support you and help you tell your dad in a way that will help him stay calm.as far as it goes with telling your dad about your boyfriend, i would have your boyfriend come with you and sit down and tell your dad together and hopefully he will respect the fact that you are both willing to take care of your child together.im sorry im not sure how understanding your parent are but i hope i could help.good luck and i hope it all works out for you.
5. March 2011 at 11:55 pm
Why Why Why, are young girls having sex knowing you can get pregnant and then when it happens ya’ll freak. 1st off you just totaly messed up by lying to that boy about your age he is going to go to jail for satutory rape and be listed as a pedifile he wont even be aloud to be around your child. You screwed that boys life up big time. Never ever lie to a guy cause not only do you have to deal with your parents and how they react your also gonna have to deal with the fact youll be a single mother because your childs father will be locked up. Boy did you cause a big mess for everyone.